Gift of Love!

Valentine's Day may be thought of as a rather twentieth century celebration of love but in fact, it dates as far back as the third century! The original was a feast day celebrated by Romans and such who celebrated a goddess called Juno Februata. The original celebration consisted of young, single girls putting there name in a pot with young men then being matched to them. For the following year, the young man would take care of the girl until the following February came around and the whole thing started over again. Of course, some liaisons would last, thus it became known for the 'lovers day' more relevant to today's celebrations.
These practices, however, were considered heathen by the Christian church and to allay such practices, they changed the girls' names to Saints names (and called it St. Valentine's Day). Whichever Saints names the boys picked meant that they had to emulate his behavior for the coming year. Over time this again fizzled out and the feast of St. Valentine has been with us ever since.
Although not proven, there is thought to have been about seven St. Valentines in history. Two incidents link the name with the day; one was that St. Valentine was jailed but fell in love with the jailer's daughter. He purportedly sent her notes signed 'from your Valentine'. Another was that Valentine was a priest. During war times men did not want to leave family, girl friends and loved ones so Emperor Claudius outlawed marriages and engagements. Valentine married them in secret and for his pains was jailed for life.
All the stories evolved into one when in 496 St. Valentines' day was decreed to be the day for lovers to exchange secret messages. Since then, of course, the day has become more and more popular with even married couples, children and grandparents becoming involved.
In many cultures the custom now is to wear red on that day although this was not required even at the end of the twentieth century. It seems that people are so enamored of the day that it keeps on evolving as every year goes by. Really, it is just another excuse to give a gift or card to a loved one, whether it is a child to a parent or vice versa, or for lovers or engaged couples. Traditionally it was supposed to be a love message sent in secret but in current days people tend to sign with their own names.
Now you have the history of the day, the next big question is 'what to give that certain someone'. Although it is traditional to give flowers and/or chocolates people now tend to give other gifts as well.
If flowers are your choice, take care to find out the meaning of the flowers and their colors. They all have meanings and you don't want to send the wrong one! For example, yellow roses are a sign of friendship which is not what a man would want a future love interest to receive. Red roses are for love which also may be a bit strong for the initial foray into the world of romance. These may be better suited to an established relationship since they also denote passion. Perhaps a mix of different colored roses may be the right note to hit if it is the first time to send someone a Valentine gift. In this way, no clear message is portrayed but the lady - or man - in question will definitely get the message that you are interested.
Some other flowers that may be good to send are; tulips for a 'perfect lover', sunflowers for adoration or white violets for 'let's take a chance'. One of the main ones to avoid on Valentine's Day is orange lilies because, believe it or not, they stand for hatred!
Chocolates too are a firm favorite when sending sweets to your 'sweetie'. Even if the recipient is a health fanatic chocolates are ok once in a while. Most people appreciate the thought behind the gift and overlook any faux pas that may have been made.
Of course, gifts don't have to be of the edible kind. Something like a musical box or jewelry boxes would be more than welcome and the choice is tremendous. Many websites offer self designed boxes, to some degree, with a choice of musical tune or finish to make the gift somewhat unique. Even if that favored tune is not available as standard, for an extra charge certain companies will make the tune specifically for you which will indeed make the box totally unique.
Jewelry is also another firm favorite for established relationships and there is an abundance of different pieces on offer. Some of the more classical pieces are; a pair of matching key rings with half a heart on each. This denotes that your heart is only whole when you are both together. Or perhaps try a heart shaped, silver paper weight with your own message or initials inscribed on it. A useful reminder on a daily basis that you exist!
Some people enjoy collecting things and, again, there are many items on sale that are within this category. Limited edition musical boxes or statuettes are available - some with the ubiquitous tune or message - with some being personalized to the person you are giving it to. Imagine having a figurine made with your sweethearts face on it. Pictures are sent on the internet and the company will make up the model - available in many poses and outfits - to be a caricature of your intended.
Whatever you decide on, make sure that you give it some thought. There is nothing worse than receiving an inappropriate gift. This rather defeats the object of letting that person know that you have feelings for him or her. On the other hand, a great gift goes a long way to breaking the ice and you never know where this one day, and its ancient customs, will take you!

Love is Power, Life, Emotion and Everything!

What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some “Love is friendship set on fire” for others “Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it”. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.
Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true.

Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said “Love all”
Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship. The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But “love” is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.
In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it.
Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect.
Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.

Find your Soul Mate

If you have lots of emotions and feelings and just left them as the moon light in the forest, this is the right time to think about your soul mate. But many have lots of confusions about their emotional partner here I have given some useful information for them.

Sure, we all dream about meeting the right person. . . the one that we are meant to be with forever. Dreaming about it is all fun and easy, but the real question is, where do you find this soul mate of yours? Fate? Well yes, if you believe in fate, then yes, it will have something to do with it, but not without effort on your part. Fate needs you to give it direction so that as a team, you can find the person you have always wanted as a part of your life.

The first thing you have to do before finding your soul mate, is finding yourself. What qualities are important to you? What are your morals and beliefs? How do you show your affection and how do you expect it to be presented to you? These are questions necessary for you to ask yourself before going out there. Giving yourself an interview will make things clearer of what type of person you are really looking for, instead of just going on a blind search.

It is very common for a person to date people just for “dating”. While dating is a fun and useful experience, it is not advisable to just go out with anyone just to have a date, or to enter a relationship because you do not want to be alone. When you go out on a date, it is important that you use that date as an opportunity to observe and see if the person is someone you would like to see again and if they carry the qualities you are looking for. If, for example, if you are searching for a person who is in touch with his or her romantic side, but go on a date with someone who likes acting rough at baseball games and loves hunting, then you could pretty much see where the relationship would go. You should be able to sense these qualities after a few dates.

Once you have realized that these dates will not lead to a relationship you have dreamed of, then obviously the person is not your dream mate either, and it would be best if you stop seeing each other to prevent any misleading expectations. Continuing to date someone just because you entered a comfort zone or do not want to hurt their feelings will only hold you back from meeting who you are really meant to be with, not to mention waste precious time for both you and your date’s. Gently break it to him or her that you find them to be a very interesting and nice person, but you feel like going solo for a while and then move on.

Tracking down your soul mate will require patience; so do not feel frustrated or hopeless if you do not find him or her in a certain amount of time. Good things take time to be brought together and you will come together when the time is right. The time becomes right when you look out for the right signs. Such signs would be:

1. Being strongly attracted to each other physically.
2. Being strongly attracted to each other’s personalities.
3. Having common interests.
4. Sharing the same values.
5. Major respect for one another.
6. Someone who makes you feel truly special and worthy.
7. Someone who puts in a great effort to show you their passion for you and the things that is important in your life.
8. Meeting on the same emotional levels.

These are some major and important signs to look out for when trying to track down your soul mate. It will not be difficult to realize because you will know when things are right and the way you want it. When you have found such a person, it is good for you to remember to take things one-step at a time. Sometimes people jump in too fast and end up getting hurt or realizing they jumped to conclusions a little too soon. Take it slow and observe how things are going. See if the person who seems to be perfect in every way for you, remains to carry the same qualities as the relationship proceeds.

When time has proven that the two of you are truly compatible in ways you have always dreamed of, then the relationship may go to the next level and the two of you can make a serious commitment and start focusing on building a future together. Like before, it is important that you pay attention to how you handle a commitment together and if you both agree on what kind of future the two of have in mind. Staying on the same levels is a huge sign that you are with the right person.

Finding your soul mate will the best accomplishment you will ever make, but it does not stop there. Finding the right person is just the beginning. Keeping the right person takes work too, on both your parts. The two of you will have to continue valuing each other for the rest of your lives, respecting each other’s individuality and dreams. Refresh your memory of how the two of were brought together and why you both decided to make a commitment to one another. As long as you keep the magic between you alive, your relationship will continue to grow the love and care you both never imagined could ever happen to you!

So what are you doing? Go and find your soul mate... all the best!

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Live happy with a satisfied Life

Happiness is the purpose of life. There is no meaning of life without happiness. Everybody wants to live like that but plenty of us ending with failures. Happy and satisfied life is the crust of the success.

In each day that passes by, we stand by and witness how our lives are being lived without the full happiness and satisfaction we crave and need. Most people spend their time stressed out, worried and on a constant panic about what needs to be done for their futures, raising their children, wired up over work, school, along with everything else. Does this sound familiar? Well if it does, it is because so many people live with this style and pattern. When you can start living that fully happy and satisfied life?

The only way you can live a happy and satisfied life, is when you start doing things that make you happy and satisfied. Sure, it sounds easy, and can be easy if you just remember to make yourself one of your top priorities. Too many people neglect themselves, feeling that it would be selfish if they took any time out to focus on their own being. While it is good to take care of others and other important things going on in your life, it is mandatory that you never forget about yourself. Discover who you really are and what matters most to you. Living a great life does not just happen. It requires, planning and following those plans to a life that reflects who you truly are.

Most people avoid planning goals and dreams in their lives because they may have a fear of committing to it or failing. They feel that by officially writing it down, they would actually have to go through with pursuing it. This is where you need to rate the importance of your life missions. What is most important to you? Is it losing a certain amount of weight? Getting your degree? Spending more time with your spouse or children? Whatever the reason or reasons may be, just write all of them down. You may feel that making a mental note of your goals and dreams is enough, but you could very well be setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. By writing it down, you will become a visual witness of those goals. Try writing them in an organizer, with a little reminder written in each day.

Setting deadlines for these goals would be a great way to assure they will be accomplished. Avoid disappointment by setting realistic deadlines. For example, if you wanted to lose 10 pounds, do not give yourself a week to do so. You will only torture yourself and become depressed when the week is over and see that you did not come even close to losing the 10 pounds. In fact, you may give up losing weight altogether because of the failure you experienced, simply because your deadline was unrealistic.

Take some time everyday to look over your goals and remind yourself of how important they really are to you. Ask yourself why they are important to you too. Knowing that something is important is not enough. You must know the reasons behind the importance of the dreams and goals you have, so that your mind can see it more clearly and understand exactly why it is so necessary to go through with your missions.

Excuses are demons you must learn to fight off if you wish to start living a happy and satisfied life. Most people claim to have many dreams, but say they just do not have the time to approach them. Stop making excuses! You are the only one who holds the power to make a real difference in your life. Sure, we all have busy lives with our careers and families, but nothing takes up 24 hours of your day. So if something is truly important to you, you will be sure to make the time to work on it. You can do this by replacing it with something less important. For example, if you claim you do not have the time to work on the other important goals in your life, perhaps it is time for you to start making close observations on the way you spend your time. If you spend several hours of the day working, studying, and then several hours taking care of house chores and family, what else are you doing with the rest of your day? If you spend a good portion watching television, then you need to cut back on that and use that time to begin and follow an exercise plan you have been thinking to focus on for a long time (or whatever goal it is you have).

Making yourself one of your first priorities is not selfish. It actually is obligatory to do so in order to succeed in the other subjects of your life. Without a happy and satisfied you, there will be no happy and satisfied life, because you will be stressed out and unhappy. You might be consciously ignoring your needs and desires, but your subconscious mind has not forgotten about you and will constantly remind you through stress, anger, sadness, insecurity and feelings of failure.

Start listening to yourself and becoming the best friend and supporter you need. No one is going to work on your happiness for you, so find the power and motivation stored up inside you, and use it to direct yourself into the path of true happiness and satisfaction. You can do anything you set your mind to, and once you have stopped and gotten in touch with yourself, you will learn and realize just how wonderful and capable you really are, and how you always have been. You will not only realize these things, but also begin loving who are more and more, which will not only lead you to achieving the things that make you most happy, but will guide you into a world of many new dreams come true.

You cannot prefer to buy even the flowers without blossom, how you can let your life without blossom?

Healthy Relationship - Happy Living

All of us came into this world for a period of time only, none of us stays back all of us have to vacate this universe one day. Each one of us having the similar rights to live in this world. We need Good companienship to make our stay in the world pleasant. The soulmate is so important in our life so we have certain responsibilities to maintain the Healthy relationship.

First off, it is important to ask yourself what you consider a real relationship to be. You need to understand what your needs and desires are from another person, and what you are willing to give them. This way, you can see early in your first dates, if you wish to continue and work towards a future together, and if the other person feels the same of course (both sides count).

Once you have decided to have an official relationship, you both need to remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. For instance, what attracted you to each other both physically and emotionally? What do you admire about his or her personality? This will help not taking the other for granted, which can often happen after two people have been together for a long time. This does not mean the love is fading, but it does mean that there is lack of effort. People tend to get lazy after a while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This problem can be solved when both people are willing to make the time and effort.

Everyone is independent in their own beliefs and ideas about things, so never expect a person to always see things your way. However, it is important to have similar expectations out of a relationship, if you wish to avoid frequent arguments. Look for things like whether or not it is important for the both of you to see each other everyday, or have sex often. While seeing each other on a daily basis seems wonderful and healthy to some people, others may feel smothered and need space to have some alone time. Or if sex is on the top of your list, but is not on your partners, you might want to consider that, unless you do not mind waiting or taking care of yourself once in a while…depending on how long you have to wait!

Patience is one of the main keys to a healthy relationship. There are times when our partner will not respond in a way in which is pleasing to us, but this does not mean we have to take it so seriously or personally. Always slow down, take a deep breath and think of reasons why your partner may be acting a certain way. Assuming and jumping to conclusions is always an unhealthy step to take because it shows your partner that they are not entitled to act freely and they feel attacked, not to mention it shows that you automatically assume the worst of them. Give your partner some time and let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. No matter what the situation may be, patience is golden in a relationship, unless your partner never wants to discuss matters with you (which would mean you need counseling or leave the relationship).

Honesty is also at the top of everyone’s list when it comes to what people want out of a relationship. A person needs to know that they can trust their mate because it builds a zone of safety and comfortableness around them. They need to know that they can at least rely on their loving partner to tell them the truth, no matter what. Being human means NOT being perfect, which means we will make mistakes. Now, we should not let that fact lead us to making mistakes we already know are wrong ahead of time. If your partner deliberately makes mistakes or you knowingly make mistakes, it shows that you or your partner lacks respect and care for the other. This is unhealthy for the relationship. What is healthy however, is realizing that the mistake you committed is a mistake. You or your partner need to know that what they did was wrong and they need to feel the sympathy for what they did. Once you or partner have realized this, you can then figure out a way of how you will confess your wrong doings to the other.

Secrets of a Long Relationship :Accept The Shortcomings
None of us are perfect. Some of us are sloppy. Some of us are perpetually late. It's just what happens. If a person spent 18+ years of their life a certain way, you aren't going to "retrain" them. And really, they are not with you to have a new mommy or daddy. They want a partner in life to love them the way they ARE.If she is always late, then plan your schedule to start out 1/2 hour early and start all your preparations based on that.

Arrange to be at the show 1/2 hr early for drinks, so that if you slide a little, you just cut into the drink time and still can see the show.If he is always messy, then first find ways to make things easier - get a hamper right by the bed, get a change dish right by the door. If it's more serious than that, talk to him about hiring a monthly maid. It costs nothing but it might really help your sanity level. You have to accept your partner the way he or she is - and find ways to deal with the issues in a way that is not water torture for you.

"The life without partner is the moon without light"

What is Love?

A good relationship doesn't just happen. Couples who stay together for years aren't just lucky. It requires both people to actively care for and work on the relationship, just like a garden.

Mature love is beyond the butterflies and heart throbbing. It is a love that starts with YOU first. Do you truly love yourself? Are you secure in your self-esteem and feel content in your personal life? This issue is extremely important to deal with, for you need to love yourself before you can truly love another.

True love is not only about a constant physical attraction. It is about staying together through the rough times and helping each other with tears and fears, as well as laughter and sparkling smiles. You both never try to change each other, but except one another for who you really are, instead of arguing or blaming the other for the differences between you. You are not only lovers, yet wonderful friends, who are honest and trust each other with your personal feelings and worries. With each experience you go through, you learn more about the other and love and appreciate them even more, continuing to give each other the space to grow into their own independent character. If you need advice on a personal issue, ask the experts.

Though love itself is simple, telling the difference between true love and infatuation can be rather confusing, especially in our young years when our hormones are raging. Sometimes we meet a person who just makes our bodies jittery and our heads full of daydreams and fantasies and we mistaken that for love, when it is indeed, only an infatuation or crush. For example, a young girl can find her teacher good looking, kind and intelligent, which awakens her already raging hormones to gather together and form this huge feeling of fascination, putting the person on a pedestal, without even knowing anything about them.

They constantly think of the other, depending on them for a high self esteem, or low…however the person will react towards them and so on. Because you will feel these feelings at the first stage of true love for another, you might get confused when you get at this point, as many do. However, you should be patient and give yourself some time and observe whether your love or infatuation matures into true love.

"Love is sailing of two souls in the same boat".

True Quality of Love

Every human being is expected to be a friend and well wisher of the world. But such feeling of friendship and love is lacking among human today. Just as a honey bee sucks nectar from a flower, so also human should be able to draw the water of happiness even from the well of misery. That is the true quality of love.

True love means sacrifice, means to devote your resources like time, money, efforts and emotions etc., for the service of others, which is "Volunteering". Volunteer is the closest to the God as we know, "Maanava Seva Maadhava Seva" (Sevice to mankind is service to the God). Without Love there is no existence of the world as it is. Service with out love is like a fruit without taste.

Time is the prime basis of existence from birth to death, you deal with time. You deal in time, use time, misuse time, gain through time, the timeless entity. To win timelessness in the short time that you have the "Grace of God", who is above time is essential. Birth is a chance to escape further birth, death must be made the final merging. Live is but another name for the efforts to know the truth. And this "Volunteership" is only a means to that end, what ever work is undertaken, with no eye on the benefit therefrom, with intense selfless love, is means to attain the truth. For service of others removes the attachment to the ego, it also confers joy, joy of the highly satisfying nature.

Now a days the word "Love", became the rolling word among the youth. There will be hardly love remains among those spells. We are becoming the witnessess for the violations on the name of love like killing self or killing other for not accepting ones love. Love means what? is it be locked to one and only person in this universe? Definitely not. Love is as great as the oceans on the earth. It can be shared to all mankind in the universe. It is as like Light shines well with sharing each other.

I am not discouraging the Love among the Youth, but true love should be encouraged. If you are loving somebody means you lost yourself and remained for the other only. Love is God. If you are able to love means you are turning towards the God. It changes your behavior, attitude, style everything softens, blossoms that everybody can recognise. It it not so, means you have to thing once again that you are in love or not.

When heart speaks to heart, it is love that is transmitted.