How Guys make efforts to Love.

It is a million dollar question for the guys that how some guys are successful in making love with their dream girls easily. It is a most active extra curricular activity for the students in the campus to learn how to love. Here are some of the topics, tools that how these successful guys uses to become successful in making love with their dream ones. Here is the extracts of a successful person in love.

Getting a girl of your dreams is much like getting the car of your dream. But unlike a car which you can always bargain for, there is nothing like a 20 percent discount in courting the girl of your dreams, she's so sweet a thing to be discounted, you dearly are in love with her and your feelings for her can only be communicated not by the words of the mouth, but by the words of the heart. Getting the girl actually depends on how big your heart is - faint heart, never won fair lady.

The first dating idea for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other loser. How to make her fall in love with you? Take your time. Add some romance to your dating style.

When in College I had a crush on the most beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' The first letter contained the meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny message that could only be read backwards and it was all about her physique and her smartness.

In the third letter I told the girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in that manner.

I made her fall in love with me and made a date in the romantic manner. Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up. I and my College steady were to break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies.

Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart. A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character.

In you, she'll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend. Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.

In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night. Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round. You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life.

I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that? Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it.

I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can't sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me. No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces. The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand.

Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved. Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready.

And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten. The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers. I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world!

"Don't use the word "Love" for just fun. It is the holy word use it sparingly".

Gift of Love!

Valentine's Day may be thought of as a rather twentieth century celebration of love but in fact, it dates as far back as the third century! The original was a feast day celebrated by Romans and such who celebrated a goddess called Juno Februata. The original celebration consisted of young, single girls putting there name in a pot with young men then being matched to them. For the following year, the young man would take care of the girl until the following February came around and the whole thing started over again. Of course, some liaisons would last, thus it became known for the 'lovers day' more relevant to today's celebrations.
These practices, however, were considered heathen by the Christian church and to allay such practices, they changed the girls' names to Saints names (and called it St. Valentine's Day). Whichever Saints names the boys picked meant that they had to emulate his behavior for the coming year. Over time this again fizzled out and the feast of St. Valentine has been with us ever since.
Although not proven, there is thought to have been about seven St. Valentines in history. Two incidents link the name with the day; one was that St. Valentine was jailed but fell in love with the jailer's daughter. He purportedly sent her notes signed 'from your Valentine'. Another was that Valentine was a priest. During war times men did not want to leave family, girl friends and loved ones so Emperor Claudius outlawed marriages and engagements. Valentine married them in secret and for his pains was jailed for life.
All the stories evolved into one when in 496 St. Valentines' day was decreed to be the day for lovers to exchange secret messages. Since then, of course, the day has become more and more popular with even married couples, children and grandparents becoming involved.
In many cultures the custom now is to wear red on that day although this was not required even at the end of the twentieth century. It seems that people are so enamored of the day that it keeps on evolving as every year goes by. Really, it is just another excuse to give a gift or card to a loved one, whether it is a child to a parent or vice versa, or for lovers or engaged couples. Traditionally it was supposed to be a love message sent in secret but in current days people tend to sign with their own names.
Now you have the history of the day, the next big question is 'what to give that certain someone'. Although it is traditional to give flowers and/or chocolates people now tend to give other gifts as well.
If flowers are your choice, take care to find out the meaning of the flowers and their colors. They all have meanings and you don't want to send the wrong one! For example, yellow roses are a sign of friendship which is not what a man would want a future love interest to receive. Red roses are for love which also may be a bit strong for the initial foray into the world of romance. These may be better suited to an established relationship since they also denote passion. Perhaps a mix of different colored roses may be the right note to hit if it is the first time to send someone a Valentine gift. In this way, no clear message is portrayed but the lady - or man - in question will definitely get the message that you are interested.
Some other flowers that may be good to send are; tulips for a 'perfect lover', sunflowers for adoration or white violets for 'let's take a chance'. One of the main ones to avoid on Valentine's Day is orange lilies because, believe it or not, they stand for hatred!
Chocolates too are a firm favorite when sending sweets to your 'sweetie'. Even if the recipient is a health fanatic chocolates are ok once in a while. Most people appreciate the thought behind the gift and overlook any faux pas that may have been made.
Of course, gifts don't have to be of the edible kind. Something like a musical box or jewelry boxes would be more than welcome and the choice is tremendous. Many websites offer self designed boxes, to some degree, with a choice of musical tune or finish to make the gift somewhat unique. Even if that favored tune is not available as standard, for an extra charge certain companies will make the tune specifically for you which will indeed make the box totally unique.
Jewelry is also another firm favorite for established relationships and there is an abundance of different pieces on offer. Some of the more classical pieces are; a pair of matching key rings with half a heart on each. This denotes that your heart is only whole when you are both together. Or perhaps try a heart shaped, silver paper weight with your own message or initials inscribed on it. A useful reminder on a daily basis that you exist!
Some people enjoy collecting things and, again, there are many items on sale that are within this category. Limited edition musical boxes or statuettes are available - some with the ubiquitous tune or message - with some being personalized to the person you are giving it to. Imagine having a figurine made with your sweethearts face on it. Pictures are sent on the internet and the company will make up the model - available in many poses and outfits - to be a caricature of your intended.
Whatever you decide on, make sure that you give it some thought. There is nothing worse than receiving an inappropriate gift. This rather defeats the object of letting that person know that you have feelings for him or her. On the other hand, a great gift goes a long way to breaking the ice and you never know where this one day, and its ancient customs, will take you!